All posts tagged: My thoughts

Is Adulthood Just Being Busy All the Time?

I can’t tell you how much I want to have the time to work on this blog. To draw, travel, take photos, try new things—but I’m just too damn busy. Always. I keep thinking that soon I’ll have more time to do some of the stuff that makes me happy (and maybe even relax?) but with each new day comes another task to add to my seemingly endless to-do list. I’m mostly to blame for being constantly overwhelmed. I take on far too many things, but life’s just getting in the way too. Too much work, too many appointments, getting sick at inopportune times, and the infinite red-tape that makes everything more difficult. Is this what being an adult is like forever? David always tells me, “One thing at a time.” And when I have the time, this way of thinking is great. But usually, I don’t. And I feel guilty for complaining. Most people are this busy (and many are much more so), but I needed to get this off my chest. Maybe some …

Embracing Failure

When I first started this blog (once upon a time called juliavanvalkenburg.com, ha!) I wrote a post about embracing failure and why making mistakes is essential to our personal growth and discovery. That post was deleted during an overhaul not long ago, but I decided that it was a topic worth revisiting. What is failure, anyway? When I first wrote about failure, my approach to the topic was far less nuanced. Now, I no longer subscribe to using that word. Beyond getting an F on a paper or exam, can someone even objectively fail? We don’t fail, but we certainly mess up. We realize something isn’t right for us and we move on. We react. We make a mistake and respond by shifting our approach or perspective. We hopefully make decisions that are better for ourselves and others as a result of our mishaps. This isn’t failure, this is growing. So when I do use the word failure, I don’t mean it in the objective, pass or fail, hyper-success-driven American way of thinking. I mean hitting a wall and realizing there’s another path around it. …

My Month Working in Beverly Hills

Oh Beverly Hills. So posh. So beautiful. So vapid. Believe it or not, I’m an enormous fan of Bravo’s reality series, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. I’m guilty of indulging in a little mindless entertainment and RHOBH does the trick. What can I say? It can be fun to watch an hour of rich people doing rich people stuff, and it’s also humbling to see that money doesn’t buy happiness. We all have issues, whether we can afford a Bentley or not. But my enjoyment of Beverly Hills does not extend beyond the television screen. About two weeks after moving to Los Angeles I was offered a job somewhere small and cute and just off Rodeo Drive. After only four weeks of working there, I came to terms with the fact that the job wasn’t the right fit for me. But as is the case with all things in life, the experience certainly wasn’t a waste. I met some wonderful women, discovered what I was and wasn’t willing to accept in a working environment, and realized that …

My Thoughts on This Year’s Golden Globe Awards

I used to love award shows when I was admittedly somewhat more naive. As I’ve grown older, I’ve began to realize that they don’t always mean all that much, other than to those who win them. Spectacular films, television shows, writers, cinematographers, actors, directors, producers, and artists from all aspects of the creative process are ignored year after year. And sometimes (or rather, often) sub-par films make the cut. An Oscar-winning film or performance does not always stand the test of time. My first observation from last night’s Golden Globes was that the winners weren’t all entirely predictable, which was quite refreshing. There were also so many tremendous speeches (some of my favorites included Gina Rodriguez, Common, Jeffrey Tambor, and Maggie Gyllenhaal) and as usual, Amy and Tina were great (though, why didn’t we see more of them?!). But what stood out to me most was that the women of the ceremony were totally and completely riled up and ready to talk about women’s roles in Hollywood. Nearly every female winner of the night had something to say about …